It’s difficult for us all to reflect on. You’re not alone at all since it’s the most troublesome thing about us all (and the source of nearly all that pains us.). Thank you for being here.
I wonder if lack of boundaries is just a symptom of a larger issue of Codependence caused by abandonment and neglect, that is now working on and compounding the issue across the GEN X/Y, Millennials, and now the Gen Zers. The feminist movement sent women to the workforce in the 60s and 70s, and the Boomers were effectively started the problem growing worse by being abandoned by moms and dads who were off working and chasing their careers. The economic conditions of the 70s and 80s led Boomer couples to both have to work in order to make ends meet, so Gen X/Y became the latchkey kids who were left to fend for themselves and abandoned even further. The Millennials took it a step further by working parents and then the advent of social media that warped their minds while their parents were off working their asses off, and were then unavailable to their kids due to exhaustion and long commutes. And now we have Gen Z, raised by the internet and social media to severely codependent and absent parents made worse by the Trump Derangement Syndrome and COVID lockdowns... lack of boundaries is a problem, because they were never taught (and I say this as a early Millennial with codependence due to my parent's divorces and abandonment/neglect while they each pursued their own careers and left me to raise myself). Lack of boundaries is a symptom of the deeper abandonment and neglect of successive generations of children by absent, overworked, and exhausted parents who weren't around and couldn't model boundaries because they never learned them themselves. But I think the origin is Codependence.
Reading Dr. Paul again is like reading Tolkien’s The Return of the King! As an engineer, I find your visual models of boundaries to be incredibly useful in helping me to keep moving towards who is important and what is important in my life. Thank you!
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Fascinating. I'll definitely be reading this a second time!
It’s difficult for us all to reflect on. You’re not alone at all since it’s the most troublesome thing about us all (and the source of nearly all that pains us.). Thank you for being here.
I wonder if lack of boundaries is just a symptom of a larger issue of Codependence caused by abandonment and neglect, that is now working on and compounding the issue across the GEN X/Y, Millennials, and now the Gen Zers. The feminist movement sent women to the workforce in the 60s and 70s, and the Boomers were effectively started the problem growing worse by being abandoned by moms and dads who were off working and chasing their careers. The economic conditions of the 70s and 80s led Boomer couples to both have to work in order to make ends meet, so Gen X/Y became the latchkey kids who were left to fend for themselves and abandoned even further. The Millennials took it a step further by working parents and then the advent of social media that warped their minds while their parents were off working their asses off, and were then unavailable to their kids due to exhaustion and long commutes. And now we have Gen Z, raised by the internet and social media to severely codependent and absent parents made worse by the Trump Derangement Syndrome and COVID lockdowns... lack of boundaries is a problem, because they were never taught (and I say this as a early Millennial with codependence due to my parent's divorces and abandonment/neglect while they each pursued their own careers and left me to raise myself). Lack of boundaries is a symptom of the deeper abandonment and neglect of successive generations of children by absent, overworked, and exhausted parents who weren't around and couldn't model boundaries because they never learned them themselves. But I think the origin is Codependence.
Reading Dr. Paul again is like reading Tolkien’s The Return of the King! As an engineer, I find your visual models of boundaries to be incredibly useful in helping me to keep moving towards who is important and what is important in my life. Thank you!
Challenging read. I'm glad to have been informed nonetheless. Quite difficult having to reflect on my own experiences with boundaries.